I provide therapy for high-performing adults whose inner accelerators are running on fumes. If this is you, you may feel overwhelmed and overburdened with all of the things you’re trying to track and stay in control of, while struggling to connect meaningfully with yourself and others. You might feel confused as to why you’re running on empty when you’re used to doing it all. Within this context of high performance and perfectionism, a variety of other concerns might arise, such as anxiety and depression, codependency, major life transitions, interpersonal conflict, grief and loss, and explorations of sexuality and gender identity.

My individual relationship therapy is for over-functioners, beloved control freaks, and codependents looking to feel greater calm, confidence, and agency in their relationships. Maybe you feel stuck between holding onto all the responsibility (even when no one asked you to) and wanting to be held. You might fixate on the ways other people could change to better improve the quality of your relationship, and struggle to look inside at your own patterns.

I can help you reconnect to your emotions, heal from attachment wounds, set appropriate boundaries, engage in healthy conflict, clarify realistic expectations of yourself and others in relationships, and communicate unmet emotional needs.

Please note that this is different than couples therapy, in that I only work with individuals.

Gender affirming therapy is a focus for many of my clients who want to do identity work and build their self-esteem. Gender affirming therapy is for anyone starting the process of intentionally and mindfully exploring their gender identity, and for people who feel clear in their gender identity but want to deepen their understanding of how their gender intersects with other parts of their lives and identities. Areas of focus can include gender embodiment of masculinity and femininity, social transition, medical transition, family culture, loneliness and isolation from community, fear of embodying an openly trans life in this current political moment, romance and dating patterns, sex and pleasure practices, and internalized expectations of the “right” way to perform gender.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is a therapy model based on the idea that we are all made up of parts that help us move through the world. IFS honors the ways in which parts have tried tirelessly to protect us, and seeks to liberate parts from roles and responsibilities that they may no longer want to carry. As an IFS practitioner, I help you make space for your different parts while helping them release what has outgrown them. IFS therapy can be helpful for people who feel stuck between releasing old patterns of control, avoidance, and denial, and stepping into newer, more adaptive ways of connecting to themselves and others.

I incorporate somatic therapy to help people reconnect with their bodies. When our most precious qualities are repeatedly criticized, attacked, or made invisible, our inherent ability to connect with our emotions and sensations gets disrupted. Through focusing and deepening into your felt sense of being, I can help you feel your way through your emotions without distraction, defensiveness, and dissociation. Somatic therapy is especially helpful for anyone who fears their intense emotions and needs, struggles to slow down, and finds themself trying to control what cannot be controlled.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a model that uses the brain’s natural capacity to heal trauma. People who undergo EMDR therapy commonly report that their trauma feels like something that happened to them in the past, as opposed to something that continues to happen within them over and over again. I use a combination of somatic approaches and Internal Family Systems (IFS) when doing EMDR in order to provide comprehensive healing.